Listen Up Ladies! 10 Steps to Finding Mr. Right

I want to make one thing clear before I even start this article. There is no trick or tip I can offer that’s guaranteed to help you meet the man of your dreams. There isn’t one thing that’s going to work for every woman out there looking for a man. The items on this list aren’t really tricks. They aren’t gimmicks. What I’m offering you is a list of ten common sense things that you absolutely have to do if you want to meet Mr. Right. It isn’t rocket science, ladies. It’s just a matter of being in a place in your life that will not only attract Mr. Right but also ward off all of the Mr. Wrongs out there. Let’s get started.

We aren’t all supermodels.

10: Find a look you like that works for you.

Most everyday women don’t look like supermodels. Chances are we all have things we don’t like about our bodies. Dressing too provocatively, whether you have the body for it or not, is going to attract men that are interested in one thing – and that one thing isn’t finding Mrs. Right. If you’re dressed in clothes that flatter your shape and that make you feel comfortable, you’re going to be more confident which is a great way to attract Mr. Right. Nothing is sexier than confidence.

Leave the diva ‘tude for the pros.

09: Watch the ‘tude, ladies.

While confidence is sexy, arrogance is the complete opposite. So you’re hot and you feel good. Wonderful. Don’t get all ‘diva’ about it. The diva ‘tude only works for women who’ve earned it – Mariah Carey, Madonna, Cher, Diana Ross… those women have earned the right to be a bit stuck on themselves. If you don’t have a legendary career in anything, maybe wait until you do to bust out the diva antics. And if you’re interested in that kind of thing, you might want to put finding a man on the back burner anyway.

Take a class you’re interested in.

08: Get out there and meet people!

If you never go anywhere, you’re never going to meet anyone. Take up some fun, social activities you find interesting. Don’t take something up just because you want to meet a guy. Take something you actually want to try learn. Even if you don’t meet a guy, you’ll make friends and they may introduce you to someone. If nothing else, you’ll have fun and you’ll experience the rewards of having a new hobby. If you do meet a guy, though, you’ll at least know you have one thing in common. Go from there and see where it leads.

Online dating may work for you.

07: Give online dating a shot, but don’t get your hopes up.

I know a lot of people that who’ve met through online dating sites. Sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn’t. Be careful when you’re posting your ad. Say you’re just looking for a friend to grab a coffee with or maybe see a movie. Make sure you specify you aren’t looking for a casual fling and that sex isn’t what you’re looking for. This weeds out the perverts (mostly). Finally, for the love of all things good and holy, don’t post pictures of yourself half naked. Really ladies, what are you thinking? This is only going to attract one type of guy and he certainly won’t be Mr. Right.

There’s no such thing as perfect. Look for perfect for you.

06: Lower your standards.

I know this one sounds bad, but it’s true. If you are looking for perfect you are going to be looking for a long time. My husband is far from perfect but so am I and so are you. I don’t care who you are, you have flaws. We all do. You don’t have to settle for the first guy that comes along but don’t write a guy off because your dream man has brown eyes and the guy you meet has blue eyes.

Desperation is not an attractive quality, ladies.

05: Curb the desperation.

Like bears with fear, men can smell desperation a mile away. Desperation will attract all sorts of guys but chances are it won’t attract a guy you’re going to want to settle down with. Desperation paints a big old target on your chest that all of the sleazy creeps are going to immediately pounce on. That obviously isn’t something you want. Don’t slap on a ton of makeup, wear the most revealing clothes you can find and go hunting for a man. You might catch a man, but it won’t be the one you’re looking for. Mr. Right won’t want someone who reeks of desperation.

Take your time.

04: Slow it down. There’s no need to rush.

If a guy’s trying to rush you into bed, he’s not Mr. Right. Mr. Right will be willing to wait until you know each other a bit better. In addition, it’s a pretty good idea to save the marriage and baby talk until you’re in a committed, happy relationship. There is no better way to scare off Mr. Right than to bring up getting married just after you’ve started dating.

Respect yourself and he’ll respect you.

03: Respect yourself.

If you are willing to hop into bed with a guy who says a few nice things and buys you a drink or two, you’re going to earn a reputation and that reputation is one any self-respecting man is going to want to stay far, far away from. You’ll attract guys but there’s a pretty good chance Mr. Right won’t be among them.

Could Mr. Right be right beside you?

02: Don’t ignore the fact that Mr. Right could already be in your life.

Is there one special guy friend that’s always been there for you no matter what’s happening in your life? Does he respect you and care for you regardless of your latest stupid decision? Is he the guy you turn to when you need to talk no matter what you need to talk about? Is your best friend Mr. Right? There’s a good chance. Why look further when Mr. Right could be just a phone call away.

Being single isn’t really that bad, ladies.

01: Stop Looking!

If you need a man in your life to be happy, you have a problem far bigger than not being able to find Mr. Right. In fact, that same problem is probably a big part of why you’re having a hard time finding him. You need to learn how to be okay on your own. You need to be happy with who you are as a person. If you’re not interesting enough to keep yourself entertained, how are you going to be interesting enough to appeal to Mr. Right?