10 Ways To Spice Up Your Relationship In The Bedroom

Do you feel that your relationship needs to see more activity in the bedroom? Do you want to know how you can spice things up a bit? You’ve definitely come to the right place because I am going to tell you exactly how you can spice up your relationship.

Passion is important in a relationship but it is very common for passion to dwindle as time goes by. This does not mean that it cannot be ignited again though. Me and my husband found ourselves at a point where we realized our bedroom wasn’t seeing much action. Nothing was wrong in our relationship as we were both happy however I believe passion is important and so I made it my mission to relight the fire.

There were a number of things I done to relight our fire and some that we continue to do to stop it dwindling again. There are some other things that my girlfriends said have helped them in their relationships. I have given you 10 ways in which you can spice up your relationship. You can choose which you are most comfortable with and would like to try as you don’t have to do them all.


1.     Try New Sex Positions

One of the most obvious things you should try to spice up your relationship is to try new sex positions. If you find that your sex life seems to have the same routine then it can become a bit boring. If this is the case, it is time to liven it up a little by learning new sex positions and breaking out of the sex routine. You may be surprised at how many different sex positions that have actually been discovered but I wouldn’t go too crazy too soon.

You don’t have to pick the wildest or hardest looking sex positions to spice up your bedroom. All you need to do is to choose a couple of sex positions that are fairly easy to do but you have never tried. You may even discover sex positions that are just a variation of some of the sex positions you are doing now. These will be a great starting point for you.

2.     Find Out What His Fetishes Are

While a lot of people deny having a fetish, I believe everybody has one. You may have thought about something yourself in the past that turned you on but have never told anyone. If you’re comfortable in the relationship then there is no reason for you not to ask whether he has always wanted to try something. A fetish doesn’t always have to be something completely crazy, it could be that he has always wanted to get a blowjob while driving or that he has always wanted to be tied up or tie you up. These are examples of completely normal fetishes.

You don’t have to do everything that he has ever dreamed of doing as you must be comfortable with it for it to be enjoyable for both of you. If you’re comfortable with it then why not make his dream come a reality. Also, make sure to push your boundaries and don’t become too comfortable in your relationship. Pushing your boundaries a little will certainly spice up your relationship.

3.     Doing The Oral

If there is one thing that men seem to go crazy for… it is blowjobs. The reason why men go crazy for oral is because they naturally want to be the dominant one. The positioning of oral tends to be the woman in a submissive position on her knees. The man can then feel they have power and dominance. There are a few things you can do to make this experience for him even better too:

  • Don’t worry if you feel like you are slobbering when giving your man oral because the wetter it is, the better it is for your man. This is probably the only time slobbering is actually a good thing!
  • You can do so much more than just bob your head up and down. Why not further the pleasure for him by licking, kissing and massaging his penis too.
  • Don’t just focus on the penis itself. Even though this is obviously the center of the attention, you should not neglect the surrounding areas. His inner thighs and balls are highly sensitive so touch these areas while giving him oral.

4.     Start Teasing Him

You don’t have to actually be in the bedroom to spice up your relationship. A good way to spice things up a bit and ignite a bit of passion again is to start teasing him. Next time you are out at dinner with him, why not do the classic feeling up his leg and inner thigh with your foot? Your man will instantly be aware of you but know that he can’t do anything about it because you’re in a busy restaurant. He will want to rip your clothes off as soon as you both get home.

Sometimes we feel the most turned on when we’re feeling a bit naughty. This is exactly what teasing can do which is why it is a great way to spice things up.

5.     Start Sexting

Another way you can tease him and spice things up is to start sexting. If you’ve never done it before then you may think that this is a bit silly but you will be surprised as to how much it can work. Next time he is at work or out then why not text him something cheeky. If he is in the mood to play then he will text something cheeky back to you. If he is in the mood to play, you can then take it further so that you end up telling him exactly what you’re going to do to him when he gets home. He will barely be able to wait to get home to get what you have promised him.

6.     Enjoy A Night In With Chocolate And Red Wine

It is no secret that chocolate and red wine are aphrodisiacs so if you and your man like both of them then why not enjoy a night in with both? Chocolate actually stimulates pleasure in the brain and will get you both in the mood for love. This will especially work to spice things up if you use one or a couple of the other tips I have added in this blog post. This is one of the things on this list that me and my husband do regularly and we really enjoy this time together.

7.     Talk Dirty

One sure way to spice things up in the bedroom is to talk dirty to him. This doesn’t have to be anything crude but could just to be more vocal during pleasure. You could also whisper seductively into his ear what you want to do to him to get him into the mood and into the bedroom. You can practice how to talk dirty in the mirror so you feel comfortable enough before doing it for real. You can have real fun with this one and it will be sure to spice things up.

8.     Watch An Adult Movie

While adult movies tend to be overly exaggerated, they can work to getting you both in the mood for a bit of hanky panky. You may even find something that you would both like to try while watching it. There are also plenty of sex therapy videos now available which you can get to learn more about how to pleasure each other. If you can both find new pleasures then it will be sure to spice things up.

9.     Create A Romantic Playlist

This is another one that me and my husband do regularly. It was actually my husband who came up with this one on one Valentine’s Day. He created a playlist full of soothing romantic songs. Because we both found this night enjoyable, it has naturally become a recurring thing now. Having some romantic music in the background can really work to adding sentiment and romance to the bedroom so I highly recommend it.

10.Fill The Room With Scents

If you’re anything like me then you’ll love your scented candles. Not only will the candles help to create a beautiful romantic ambience in the bedroom but if you choose the right scent then it can also add something special to the night. There are hundreds if not thousands of different scents you can choose from but I would go for something that will put your man in a good mood. I find that traditional rose scents seem to work best but that might just be for us.


They are my 10 tips to help you spice up your relationship in the bedroom. Sometimes you might have to step a little outside your comfort zone but you’re with your man so you shouldn’t feel uncomfortable. Just remember to try new things and have fun.

Is there anything that has worked well to spice up your relationship? I want to hear all so leave your comments below.