After the Engagement: Top 5 Biggest Stressors of Planning a Wedding

For lots of women, when you’re in a relationship with your partner, the ultimate way of them showing you just how much they love you is by proposing to you, right? Yes. You already know they love you but for them to want to spend the rest of their life with you says a lot!

Getting engaged is one of the biggest and happiest moments in a woman’s life. Some proposals are very intimate with very few people around while other engagements are very big with family and friends gathered… there are even some engagements where it’s filmed and turned into a mini movie! Nonetheless, getting proposed to is one of the most memorable moments a woman will experience and after the engagement, everything is roses! NOT!

Yes, getting engaged is one of the most memorable and happy moments in a woman’s life but after the engagement, it can become one of the most stressful periods in their life as well. This may not be the case for some women but for most women it is. Planning a wedding is not as easy as planning a birthday dinner reservation for 10… there are so many factors that go into it that you don’t even realize until you actually get involved in the planning process.

Although planning a wedding can be stressful the best way to combat those stressors is to plan, go at your own pace, and ask for help in every way that you may need it. You can still have the wedding of your dreams and have things go your way but it’s also perfectly fine to ask for help when you need it. But in order to know where you may need help at, take a look at some of the biggest stressors that follow an engagement.

Wedding Budget

Trying to figure out how to pay for your wedding is the biggest stressor that brides-to-be face. Most brides, of course, want the wedding of their dreams but almost ALL dream weddings come with a hefty price tag. Whether you have $5,000 or $15,000, it’s never going to feel like it’s enough to cover everything.

According to USA Today, the average cost of a wedding rounds out to $25,000. If you’re trying to avoid that price tag, you may need to consider other wedding options but ultimately, you need to set a budget and try your hardest to stick to it… not setting a budget upfront is actually one of the biggest wedding mistakes people make that send them into debt.

The Perfect Venue

Finding the perfect wedding venue can also make you want to pull your hair out as well. The key to lowering your stress in this area is to narrow down your options. You first need to figue out what type of wedding theme you want to have. If you want a glamourous wedding, you may want to look at hotels with conference rooms that a professional wedding decorator can “glam up” for you. If you want a rustic wedding you need to look for an outdoor wedding venue that has natural elements… farmhouse weddings are really popular themes for rustic themed weddings.

The Guestlist

The guestlist is really stressful because it brings about a different kind of stress. This stressor pulls at your heartstrings. Ultimately you want to invite everyone you know and love to your wedding but there are various factors that come into play that don’t always allow you to do that. Things like budget and venue spacing all play a part in who you invite.

You might want to have a small and intimate wedding and only invite your closest friends and family. Well, this is where issues arise. After your invitations go out, you’ll start to get phone calls from people stating that they thought they were one of your closest friends or family members. It hurts you because you really do want to invite everybody but you can’t.

This is stressful but you can’t let it ruin or slow your planning process because at the end of the day, it’s your wedding and you have every right to invite or not invite who you want. That probably sounds a little harsh but sometimes that’s how you have to look at it in order to move forward in your planning process.

As an apology and a way for everyone to celebrate, some people will have a get together at their home to celebrate with the people that they weren’t able to invite and most of the time, their guests do appreciate the gesture.